Has your sexual desire been dwindling? Join the club.
Many women experience diminished libido, especially after they have children. It happened to Suzy Olds, 46, a Biomedical Engineering professor who lives in Glenview. By the time her kids hit kindergarten, her sex drive still hadn’t bounced back, so she consulted her gynecologist. Her doctor told her, “Yep, you and every other mom out there. What you need is some super-soft porn. But you won’t find any.”
But Suzy, a Ph.D., is a professional problem solver, so she kicked into research mode. Sure enough, she found there are very few sensual videos available that meet the needs of women. To fill the void in the market, Suzy and her husband, Doug, launched After Nine Tonight, a website packed with supportive information and spicy videos to help women, especially moms, rekindle the passion with their mates.
Launching a second career as video producers has been a learning experience for the Olds, and they’ve approached it professionally. The film series is cast with SAG actors and written and directed by an award-winning production team. I watched the first video, “Staycation,” and I liked it. It’s fun, sexy and relatable, which is important.
“A woman wants to envision herself as the character,” Suzy says. “That’s the number one factor that heightens her arousal.”
The “Staycation” female lead, Simone, is beautiful but not intimidatingly so. There’s a refreshing jiggle to her tummy that makes me imagine I could look just like her after, say, a 10-day juice cleanse.
Suzy’s research showed that women also want a storyline that focuses on romance and a stable relationship, backed by a sensual setting. “Staycation” delivers all those elements. Simone’s lover is her husband, a cutie who is savvy enough to whisk the kids off to Grandma’s and leave his wife a sexy invitation early in the day, giving Simone plenty of time to prepare for and anticipate the passionate evening to come at—every busy mom’s favorite—a hotel.
The actual sex scenes are steamy, but not explicit. The 15-minute videos hover somewhere between a PG-13 and R rating. In fact, I was surprised to realize that there’s no actual nudity, because it certainly feels like the couple is naked and you can totally imagine exactly what’s going on. And that’s Suzy’s intention. “For women, imagination is better,” she says.
The video even has an element of humor. Simone relates the details of her hot date night to her sex-starved mom friends, who gobble chocolate and chug wine as they beg for details.
The videos are geared toward women, but there’s a benefit for men too. By showing how enthusiastically women respond when guys are considerate and romantic, they’re getting a few educational seduction tips. And of course, “men will sit through pretty much anything to get sex,” Suzy says.
How has this new venture affected Suzy and Doug’s intimate life? “Oh my gosh, it’s great,” Suzy says. “It’s opened up our communication. We really get what each other wants. Now I know what I want and need better. I didn’t know what to fantasize about before. Now I do.”
