Talking about sex is an important part of a healthy intimate relationship, but having the conversation can feel difficult and awkward. There’s still a lot of shame and discomfort around sex. We aren’t used to talking about our sex life in honest, specific ways with anyone—including the person we’re sleeping with. Sometimes we don’t broach […]
Here’s a fun assignment for the holidays that’s just for you. Take time to discover what brings you pleasure and turns you on. You don’t have to start from scratch. You probably already have a few go-to sensuous pursuits—a luxurious bubble bath or time with a naughty novel—and you’ve figured out what checks the boxes […]
“Desire needs mystery,” says expert couples therapist and Mating in Captivity author Esther Perel. But for many couples, mystery has been in short supply during the pandemic. With the lockdown, work from home, travel bans, cancelled activities and social distancing, couples have never spent so much time together. It’s certainly true for my husband and […]
A controversy is brewing across the pond about the value of maintenance sex—sex you don’t feel like having but do for the sake of your relationship. In a recent British OK! Magazine interview, celebrity model Caprice Bourret advised women to dispense with the excuses and just do it. “Take one for the team. It’s five […]
As the COVID-19 virus requires most Americans to hunker down at home, even the hottest relationships are under pressure. Being confined in close quarters means couples have to develop new ways to work, parent and love. Here’s advice from some business and relationship experts about how to set your household (and your love life) up […]
I’ve written a lot about women’s bodies and sensuality over the years, so I think it’s only fair to focus on the men’s sexual health and pleasure for a change. After all, if you’re sleeping with a guy, you should understand how his body works, right? And the penis is quite a remarkable organ. With […]
Writer/activist Dan Savage and I have a lot in common. We’re both sex columnists; we’re both parents of teenage children; and we’re both married to men who look hot in their bathing suits. But when it comes to talking about sex, I’m as bland as vanilla baby pudding compared to the spicy, brutally honest, often controversial Savage. His advice column, “Savage Love,” is syndicated […]
In our April issue we’re celebrating the body, so as your faithful sex columnist, I’d like to draw your attention to your oft-neglected pelvic floor muscles. The group of muscles down there (also called PC muscles) that holds all our pelvic organs in place. You’re probably clenching them right now, just thinking about them. We […]
