Tips to Successful Online Dating

Before you click “send” on your Match.com profile, check out these tips to increase your chance of having some fun dates and decrease the possibility of a date with already-married Malcolm.

Getting Started

  • Forget the stigma. Dating websites are a mainstream way to meet people.
  • Investigate the websites – know the costs, how matches are made, and who can see your profile.

Your Profile

  • Use recent, tasteful pictures – no friends, dogs, or kids.
  • Be upfront about the type of relationship you want, but don’t be too needy about having kids.
  • Be positive and show your sense of humor.
  • No complaining, moping or ex bashing.
  • Share interests, hobbies, and a quirk or two – they’re good conversation starters.
  • Ask a friend to look over your profile. Does it reflect you at your best? Are there any misspellings or typos?

Online Courtship

  • Plan to spend lots of time online finding and responding to potential matches.
  • Be open-minded.
  • Don’t stick to a rigid set of criteria or a particular type.
  • There might be someone better out there than you’ve imagined.
  • Log on regularly and keep your profile fresh; staying active can make you more visible on the site.
  • When talking online, keep it light, clean, classy and truthful.
  • Make sure you feel comfortable before you share your email address or phone number.
  • Believe who the other person says he is, but expect him to be a little heavier, older, and shorter in person.
  • If someone loses interest online, move on and don’t take it personally. Have fun!

Meeting for the First Time

  • Have a first date outfit selected and ready to go.
  • At minimum, do a Google search to investigate your date (hello, wedding announcement!)
  • Choose to meet at a public place for a limited amount of time so you can make a polite exit if there’s no chemistry.
  • The guy should pick up the tab. It’s old fashioned, but everyone feels better about it.
  • Treat your date with kindness and respect. Even if there’s no attraction, you might make a friend.
  • Don’t let a couple bad dates discourage you. You’ve got to kiss a few toads.
  • Once you’ve connected, most of the regular interracial dating rules of dating apply – except when it’s time to get serious.
  • The new going steady is now agreeing to take your dating profiles down.